Making Right, Not Making Nice

I am in the hospitality trade.  Where I work now, we host many functions – tour groups, weddings, post-convention get togethers, corporate gigs, holiday parties and a slew of other special events. That is on top of several dining outlets that we have in the building.  At this time of year, we do more of…

Changing History

Imagine being able to change history.  Your history.  Now, we know we can’t change the events of the past…they’re done.  Finito.  Sayonara.  Adios, Charlie.  What’s done is done.   The future – sure we can change some of that.  It unfolds underneath us and can be shifted and morphed by our actions and behaviours, but often…

Full Of It – My Days As A Hoarder

I don’t watch much TV.  In fact, I rarely watch it – I find my time gravitating towards on-line activities, so an hour of Angry Birds Star Wars and viewing bad 80’s music videos on YouTube constitutes R&R for me these days.  But I had a chance to watch Hoarders last night.  Hoarders, of course, is…

Finally…

I am back on the amends trail. While I don’t have many left (less than 10, methinks), I have been procrastinating.  Not sure why – the midway meltdown I guess.  I have heard that it’s common for many of us to get halfway and start to slow down.  I can identify.  I know I started…

Stalling….

Yikes. I found myself trying to rationalize some of my still unmade amends away.  Who am I trying to convince that some of my amends don’t need to be made?  That what I did wasn’t that bad.  That it won’t affect my sobriety and that I will be just fine without making certain approaches and amends. Horsefeathers!…

Amends, Amends, Amends…

Step 9 Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. I remember writing on my 4th step fear list “9th step”.  I was not frightened, but terrified, about having to (gasp!) see these people I had harmed face- to-face and make amends.   The thought…